After planning bachelorette weekends, one thing is clear: the little things can make a much bigger difference than people expect. It’s not usually the decor color, the dinner reservation, or whether everyone’s outfits perfectly match that determines how the weekend goes. It’s the behind-the-scenes details nobody thinks about until they become a problem. Here are a few lessons we’ve learned along the way.

There are a lot of guides on how to plan a bachelorette party. But what about how to actually survive it… enjoy it… and not end up in a group chat meltdown by Saturday afternoon? After planning and executing countless bachelorette weekends, we’ve seen it all—and there are a few unwritten rules that make the difference between chaotic and completely seamless. Let’s get into it.

Planning a Scottsdale bachelorette sounds easy — book a cute Airbnb, schedule a pool party, grab dinner reservations, done… right? Not exactly. After planning countless elevated bachelorette weekends in Arizona, we’ve seen the same mistakes happen over and over again. And while they’re common, they’re also completely avoidable. Here are the five biggest mistakes bridesmaids make when planning a Scottsdale bachelorette party.